How can you conflate how you control/influence/raise your kids with how you can control/influence random internet people?You can't control what others think, but you can have an effect on how others think.
If you are a boss, some position with power, or influence on another then you can control what other do. You tell your employees that work starts at 8am. Guess what? You just controlled what other do. Your a parent.
You must not have kids. Guess what? You are responsible for your kids actions.
Are you sane?