Too much elbow grease on a stick of Patriot RAM (especially when reversed) can yield disastrous results. Probably best to keep away from the fins when installing as they're very fragile. It was a 2GB stick - DDR2. Oh well, live and learn.
I'm thinking the same thing. Take the chips off the heatsink, line them up verrry carefully on the pcb, put a heat gun to it and see if you can resolder those back on. Worst case, you're out some time and have a rather warm hand.
I remember I had some memory that gave me some errors so I thought I would try to use a heat gun just to see what it would do. I heated it up just fine and then I picked it up and turned it to the side and all the chips slid off.